I’ve been thinking. Why is it that on the one hand we are so terrified of change we’ll go to extreme lengths to avoid it, while on the other hand we are told – and tell ourselves – that real, sustainable change is impossible?
These are contradictory beliefs.
I believe all change – including change for the better – is totally possible. But we have to want it and also really sincerely believe it can happen.
Have you ever misplaced a shoe at home? You know it’s somewhere in the house. Maybe the dog hid it under the sofa? Maybe you accidentally kicked it under the bed. Maybe one of the kids ran off with it. But you know it’s there somewhere so you keep on looking until you find it. You truly believe that all the frustration and searching is going to be worthwhile because it simply has to be in the house somewhere.
Social change is the same. It is completely within our control, even if it doesn’t seem that way.
Traditions are man-made and not immutable, no matter what anybody tells us. Traditions and practices can – and must – be changed if they are harming us.
Step one = we have to do whatever it takes to convince ourselves that this change is possible.
Try something. The next time someone says to you – ‘Yeah, I know it’s terrible/wrong/unjust – but that’s just the way things are – you have to accept it.’ Instead of accepting this awful ‘truth’, try this for an answer –
‘No – if we all agree it’s wrong then we don’t have to accept it – we just need to change it.’